The reality is that creating a life with another human is infinitely challenging and that there’s no way to avoid fights along the way. Numerous conflicts and hurt feelings will naturally emerge. These may involve differences around life goals, emotional needs, varying strategies to life’s challenges, and alternating views on reality itself.
Healthy relationships require skillful and loving collaboration. Perhaps an alternative to a couple saying “we fight well” is “we negotiate our differing needs well.” What follows is an exploration of skills helpful in cultivating self-awareness, emotional maturity, and the ability to play well with others.
“Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the presence of creative alternatives for responding to conflict” Dorothy Thompson